Why I Started This Blog for Every Military Girlfriend, Wife, and Everyone In Between

Hey friend, I'm Steph! 🩷

I've been a military spouse for almost 11 years.

I'm also a mom of two little girls, a Michigan girl through and through, a Bravo TV fan girl, and always counting down the days to my favorite time of the year Fall!  You can usually catch me in a comfy lounge set with an iced coffee.. guaranteed!

Here's why I'm here.

When I first became a military girlfriend, I had no idea what was going on. The acronyms, the unwritten rules, the way everyone else seemed to know things I'd never heard of.

I still remember the first time he did a layout for the field. I was shocked. I had no idea how much stuff they have to pack, and every single item had to be accounted for. Then there was the time he had me try an MRE. Never again, lol.

Those small moments taught me how much I didn't know, and I wish someone had sat me down back then and said, "Here's what to expect, and here's what actually helps." So I'm doing that for you.

What I share

On Instagram and TikTok, you'll find everyday military life, motherhood, wellness, get-ready-with-me videos, and products I actually use. It's real life, just a little more polished on the days I have five minutes to get ready.

Here on the blog, I go deeper. This is where I share:

  • Deployment: before, during, and after

  • PCS moves and how to survive them

  • Making friends when you keep starting over

  • Marriage, the honest stuff included

  • Solo parenting and getting through the hard days

  • Checklists, guides, and tips you can use right away

What I'm building

I'm not here to be perfect or to tell you there's one right way to do this lifestyle. I'm just someone 11 years in who has learned a lot, sometimes the hard way. I'm building a community where we share our best tips and insights so nobody has to figure it out alone.


If you're a brand-new military girlfriend, a spouse facing your first deployment, or a veteran of this life who just needs some friends, you're in the right place.

Let's connect

  • Follow along on Instagram and TikTok: @heystephcraig

  • Facing a deployment? Grab my Deployment Prep Kit

  • Tell me in the comments what you want me to write about next.

Welcome to the family. I'm so glad you're here.

XO,
 Steph

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